"I don't care what people think of me."
We all know people who say that. I've said it myself. After careful consideration, I'd like to clarify.
My self esteem is not tied to what anyone thinks of me. There is one exception to that rule. My wife can crush me in an instant. That woman has some power I can't quite figure out but her opinion is really important to me.
Everyone else, it's not that I don't care what you think, it's that I've spent so much time considering myself that nothing you can say will change the way I look at me.
That goes for praise as well as criticism. I'm just as likely to be unmoved that someone found me funny or thoughtful as I am to be unmoved that someone found me annoying or heartless. There are occasions where I will give praise or criticism some thought but the simple truth is I've never found any that has altered my already over thought opinions.
That's not to say your opinion doesn't matter at all to me. I enjoy hearing what other people think of me. I get a kick out of knowing what people like and dislike about me.
The point?
No one is going to be universally loved or hated. You are the only person that has to live with you. Never let what someone else thinks about you dictate who you are or how you feel. If someone doesn't like you, why would you give them a second thought. There are 6 billion other people on this planet and I'm pretty sure you can find some that like you just the way you are.
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